Not My Circus, Not My Monkeys: Resilience to Anxiety & Burnout

Thank you to everyone who participated, asked questions, and shared during my recent #DenStartupWeek Panel Discussion on fostering resilience to anxiety and burnout as entrepreneurs and startup professionals. The event was standing room only and the conversation was… Read More

Steer Me, Guide Me: Practice the Tough Stuff with Your Therapist

Recently, I experienced one of the more powerful, important conversations a therapist can have with a client. Deep in the middle of an intense exploration, my client asked me what they should do. This is a trick question… Read More

Entrepreneurs & Start-Up Professionals Get Support Too

In the daunting, isolating world of Entrepreneurs & Start-Up Founders, many people have a hard time getting the emotional support they need. Many of my clients who are Entrepreneurs and Start-up Professionals & Founders report being overwhelmed, without… Read More

Quitting Can Be Good For Everyone

Many of my clients strive to be engaged in their communities by volunteering, serving on Boards of Directors for non-profits, and working as lay leaders. This can be incredibly rewarding and enriching work. Martin Seligman describes this in… Read More

Step Out of the Chaos & Embrace Yourself

When we choose to live authentically, we establish good boundaries and healthier interactions. We take responsibility for our roles. We step outside the dysfunctional system we’ve been in. By no longer colluding in the dysfunction, we up-end the… Read More

Burning the Candle at Both Ends Without Getting Burned

Here are the slides from Matthew’s talk at #DENStartupWeek 2014: DSW BurnOut Sept 2014 Here are the Resources & References from the end of the slides: Gottman Institute Julie Colwell Brene Brown Shawn Achor Dan Gilbert TED: Happiness Martin Seligman Gay &… Read More

Orbiting, Explicit Requests, Self-Growth for Great Relationships

  In another great article on establishing healthy partnerships, The Good Men Project offers “10 Things People Who Are Great At Relationships Do Differently.” Here are three from this list that come up most frequently in my work with… Read More

30 Lessons About Relationships

While David Artavia speaks primarily to gay men in his article “30 Things I’ve Learned about Gay Relationships While Being Single,” most of them apply to all relationships. It’s a though-provoking list of some big lessons about connecting, love and… Read More

Building the Relationship You Want

Dr. Sue Johnson wrote a succinct and powerful piece describing strategies to build the relationship you want with your partner. In it, she reminds the reader of some pretty macro ideas like strong relationships take work and intention. They… Read More

I understand… I feel… I want…

Sometimes clients fall into their old communication habits of talking over each other, listening for points to argue against, and start out with negatives and on the defensive. Happens to all of us. I invite them to step… Read More