“I am me, now. It’s just when I text or email, I can’t always be me.”

I overheard part of a conversation recently waiting in line – a girl speaking on her cell phone:“I am me, now. It’s just when I text, or email, I can’t always be me. But now, it’s me! I’m… Read More

It Takes Two: Do Away with Posturing and Seek a Win-Win

Sometimes, we get a great idea, so sure our partner will go gaga for it, and come to find out, he’s so preoccupied with something else, it’s a non-starter. That first refusal comes out insulting or avoiding; we… Read More

Take a moment to self-assess: How are your relationship skills?

Take a few moments to reflect. Below you can take a short, insightful quiz that will help you look at the way you react to and interact with your partner. It will give you some new options and… Read More

Dropping the Don’ts, Doubling the Do’s.

As I’ve written in the past, saying what you want gets you there much faster than saying what you don’t want. In the same vein, saying things clearly and positively make it much easier to be heard. And… Read More

You think you know your partner?

If nothing else, simple quizzes can spark ways for you to gain new insights about your relationships. They can trigger you to consider going back to the topics of initial curiosity, in the early days of your relationship,… Read More

Holding On by Letting Go

We can hold on to what’s most important by letting go of the little stuff. We can improve our relationships by learning to let go of the minor details. So often it boils down to the little pieces… Read More

“Whow” Your Way to a Better Relationship

You can rely on two easy words to “Whow” your way to a better relationship. It just takes some effort to pick up on the way you currently ask questions, and then replace them with more effective questions…. Read More

Preventive Counseling: like a teeth cleaning for your relationship

The New York Times’ Well Blog is one of my regular reads because it gives accessible, digestible ways to live life well. This particular entry speaks to me as it briefly explains the benefits of preventive marital counseling,… Read More

Who seeks therapy and What for?

“Oh, I don’t care what we do for vacation. But, I don’t want to go too far… I don’twant to just sit on the beach for a week… I don’t feel like Chinese tonight…”“You always leave just the… Read More