When we choose to live authentically, we establish good boundaries and healthier interactions. We take responsibility for our roles. We step outside the dysfunctional system we’ve been in. By no longer colluding in the dysfunction, we up-end the system around us, and the people in it react, often negatively. In the long run though, our […]
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Here are the slides from Matthew’s talk at #DENStartupWeek 2014: DSW BurnOut Sept 2014 Here are the Resources & References from the end of the slides: Gottman Institute Julie Colwell Brene Brown Shawn Achor Dan Gilbert TED: Happiness Martin Seligman Gay & Katie Hendricks Five Love Languages Mayu Sanctuary Please be respectful of the intellectual property (mine and
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In another great article on establishing healthy partnerships, The Good Men Project offers “10 Things People Who Are Great At Relationships Do Differently.” Here are three from this list that come up most frequently in my work with couples. Check out the article to read the author’s take and the rest of the list. Here are
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While David Artavia speaks primarily to gay men in his article “30 Things I’ve Learned about Gay Relationships While Being Single,” most of them apply to all relationships. It’s a though-provoking list of some big lessons about connecting, love and belonging. Worth a quick read. Here’s a taste. Two of my favorites and possibly most
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A quick post on Psychology Today recently gives a brief look at new research on cynicism and potential links to dementia. Cynicism is a distrust in the intentions of others or a belief that others are motivated by self-interest alone. It can contribute to negative attitudes, isolation, bleak outlooks, all which take a toll on
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One of the most common recurring themes in my work with clients is the pursuit of enduring contentment: How can they build on experiences of joy and happiness, fulfillment and contentment, once they’ve emerged from distress? This TED talk by Shawn Achor is one of the first resources I refer them to. In it, Achor
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Please read this important op-ed by Tyler Curry in The Advocate that explores why binge drinking is so acceptable among gay men. Curry turns personal and stays kinda surface; I’ve found with my clients that there are often deeper psychosocial reasons the LGBTQ community hits it hard at the bar. One idea I’ve come across repeatedly
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In order to raise children who are kind and compassionate, we must show them kindness and compassion. Much like children must see us regulating our emotions (e.g. to stay calm when we’re frustrated) to learn to do it, they must see us showing kindness and compassion to learn to do it. And, it’s not enough
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New research seems to indicate (through correlation, not causation) that fewer structured activities may be better for children. Fewer classes, teams, practices and groups may lead to children with higher functioning and more success. More opportunity for unstructured, free time to choose their own activities and figure out how to do them on their own
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John Legend’s new video for You & I is out. It’s a moving look at the inherent beauty of the female experience, even through struggle & adversity: it captures growth, resilience, grief, perseverance, pride, loss and power. You might recognize some faces, like Tig Notaro and Laverne Cox. You’re more likely to recognize the faces
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