Is a goat sacrifice and a pilgrimage on your schedule for Valentine’s? Where does this day come from and what has it become? How can you show yourself some love on this day? If these questions catch your ear, then this podcast is for you! Listen in with host Ben Robbins, sex therapists Indigo Stray […]
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I encourage people in relationships to find a relationship counselor long before it’s needed. For those in relationships who don’t, it’s sometimes too late to save the relationship. At the same time, counseling can be the perfect resource to end a relationship smoothly and amicably. As much as I help clients improve their relationships, I
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Skyscrapers and highways use shock absorbers to protect their integrity and stability when the earth trembles beneath them. My work with clients serves the same purpose. I help people install shock absorbers so their emotional experiences do not rattle or undermine their emotional foundation. When a client uses these shock absorbers, things can go wrong –
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One of the most important boundaries we can create with others gives us held space. Held space is an emotional setting in which those in it with us feel safe to be authentic and to speak from a place of emotions (not criticisms, thoughts or judgments) – a space in which we can be fully
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In the daunting, isolating world of Entrepreneurs & Start-Up Founders, many people have a hard time getting the emotional support they need. Many of my clients who are Entrepreneurs and Start-up Professionals & Founders report being overwhelmed, without someone to turn to. They feel they can’t turn to their employees to vent, confide, or blow
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Here is a beautifully written short piece on turning inward to see yourself – give yourself the validation, love, compassion you’ve sought externally from your friends and loved ones – written by a beloved teacher of mine, Andra West LeBauer. “Some thoughts on adjusting to the middle portion of the life span: When we are
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When we choose to live authentically, we establish good boundaries and healthier interactions. We take responsibility for our roles. We step outside the dysfunctional system we’ve been in. By no longer colluding in the dysfunction, we up-end the system around us, and the people in it react, often negatively. In the long run though, our
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Here are the slides from Matthew’s talk at #DENStartupWeek 2014: DSW BurnOut Sept 2014 Here are the Resources & References from the end of the slides: Gottman Institute Julie Colwell Brene Brown Shawn Achor Dan Gilbert TED: Happiness Martin Seligman Gay & Katie Hendricks Five Love Languages Mayu Sanctuary Please be respectful of the intellectual property (mine and
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In another great article on establishing healthy partnerships, The Good Men Project offers “10 Things People Who Are Great At Relationships Do Differently.” Here are three from this list that come up most frequently in my work with couples. Check out the article to read the author’s take and the rest of the list. Here are
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While David Artavia speaks primarily to gay men in his article “30 Things I’ve Learned about Gay Relationships While Being Single,” most of them apply to all relationships. It’s a though-provoking list of some big lessons about connecting, love and belonging. Worth a quick read. Here’s a taste. Two of my favorites and possibly most
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