Here is a beautifully written short piece on turning inward to see yourself – give yourself the validation, love, compassion you’ve sought externally from your friends and loved ones – written by a beloved teacher of mine, Andra West LeBauer. “Some thoughts on adjusting to the middle portion of the life span: When we are […]
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When we choose to live authentically, we establish good boundaries and healthier interactions. We take responsibility for our roles. We step outside the dysfunctional system we’ve been in. By no longer colluding in the dysfunction, we up-end the system around us, and the people in it react, often negatively. In the long run though, our
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Here are the slides from Matthew’s talk at #DENStartupWeek 2014: DSW BurnOut Sept 2014 Here are the Resources & References from the end of the slides: Gottman Institute Julie Colwell Brene Brown Shawn Achor Dan Gilbert TED: Happiness Martin Seligman Gay & Katie Hendricks Five Love Languages Mayu Sanctuary Please be respectful of the intellectual property (mine and
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While David Artavia speaks primarily to gay men in his article “30 Things I’ve Learned about Gay Relationships While Being Single,” most of them apply to all relationships. It’s a though-provoking list of some big lessons about connecting, love and belonging. Worth a quick read. Here’s a taste. Two of my favorites and possibly most
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A quick post on Psychology Today recently gives a brief look at new research on cynicism and potential links to dementia. Cynicism is a distrust in the intentions of others or a belief that others are motivated by self-interest alone. It can contribute to negative attitudes, isolation, bleak outlooks, all which take a toll on
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Please read this important op-ed by Tyler Curry in The Advocate that explores why binge drinking is so acceptable among gay men. Curry turns personal and stays kinda surface; I’ve found with my clients that there are often deeper psychosocial reasons the LGBTQ community hits it hard at the bar. One idea I’ve come across repeatedly
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John Legend’s new video for You & I is out. It’s a moving look at the inherent beauty of the female experience, even through struggle & adversity: it captures growth, resilience, grief, perseverance, pride, loss and power. You might recognize some faces, like Tig Notaro and Laverne Cox. You’re more likely to recognize the faces
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New research out of Singapore & Taiwan seems to indicate worry can bolster creativity. Neurotic people seem to display “greater flexibility in generating ideas” after worrisome thoughts, such as deadlines or disapproval from supervisors. You can read more here: For Some, Worry Inspires Creativity If you’re looking for ways to turn your pressure and worry
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It’s been ingrained in us that we need plenty of sleep to function during the day. Many of us know we don’t function well without our precious 8 hours. We’ve been led to believe that our sleep should come in a solid chunk through the night. Research in recent years has underscored the value of
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Most adults wish they could go back to childhood and savor the nap times and early bedtimes. Most parents understand the importance of plenty of sleep for their children. There’s more than enough in-your-face evidence that a lack of sleep leads to negative behaviors. As described by NPR’s Shots blog, New research indicates that it’s
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