A quick post on Psychology Today recently gives a brief look at new research on cynicism and potential links to dementia. Cynicism is a distrust in the intentions of others or a belief that others are motivated by self-interest alone. It can contribute to negative attitudes, isolation, bleak outlooks, all which take a toll on […]
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One of the most common recurring themes in my work with clients is the pursuit of enduring contentment: How can they build on experiences of joy and happiness, fulfillment and contentment, once they’ve emerged from distress? This TED talk by Shawn Achor is one of the first resources I refer them to. In it, Achor
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Please read this important op-ed by Tyler Curry in The Advocate that explores why binge drinking is so acceptable among gay men. Curry turns personal and stays kinda surface; I’ve found with my clients that there are often deeper psychosocial reasons the LGBTQ community hits it hard at the bar. One idea I’ve come across repeatedly
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In order to raise children who are kind and compassionate, we must show them kindness and compassion. Much like children must see us regulating our emotions (e.g. to stay calm when we’re frustrated) to learn to do it, they must see us showing kindness and compassion to learn to do it. And, it’s not enough
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New research seems to indicate (through correlation, not causation) that fewer structured activities may be better for children. Fewer classes, teams, practices and groups may lead to children with higher functioning and more success. More opportunity for unstructured, free time to choose their own activities and figure out how to do them on their own
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John Legend’s new video for You & I is out. It’s a moving look at the inherent beauty of the female experience, even through struggle & adversity: it captures growth, resilience, grief, perseverance, pride, loss and power. You might recognize some faces, like Tig Notaro and Laverne Cox. You’re more likely to recognize the faces
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Dr. Sue Johnson wrote a succinct and powerful piece describing strategies to build the relationship you want with your partner. In it, she reminds the reader of some pretty macro ideas like strong relationships take work and intention. They don’t just happen. Love doesn’t just happen, it is cultivated through partnership, empathy, connection, and vulnerability. It
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New research out of Singapore & Taiwan seems to indicate worry can bolster creativity. Neurotic people seem to display “greater flexibility in generating ideas” after worrisome thoughts, such as deadlines or disapproval from supervisors. You can read more here: For Some, Worry Inspires Creativity If you’re looking for ways to turn your pressure and worry
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Sometimes clients fall into their old communication habits of talking over each other, listening for points to argue against, and start out with negatives and on the defensive. Happens to all of us. I invite them to step out of that old habit and re-shape their conversation with 3 prompts. Each partner uses the 3
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Questions to help you practice gratitude, gain perspective on the past week, and think prospectively about the week ahead. Excellent. I’ve put these in a recurring calendar event every Friday afternoon as a reminder. (Will I do them fully each week? No. But when I can, and really need to, they’ll be there, easy access.)
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